Sometimes you just have to do what you have to do. things to think about is I'm assuming your DH enjoys what he is studying and wants to use his diploma and its in a field he loves. that would help him being away, would that satisfaction make up for being back with your guys but not working in a job he enjoys itms..
DH and I have been doing a long distance relationship for a fair part of our relationship. I've been trying to work out actually how long but it has been about 50%/50%, I have had to work away, we have though never been more than 3 hours away from eachother (the furthest was when we first started dating and we were in different cities because I was doing my midwifery), since then the furthest has only been 2 hours, so it was possible for me to come home on my days off (simply put 'weekends' even though most of the time it was during the week).
It is hard. communication is the big thing...you have to remember to keep talking to eachother, probably more than you would if you were there everyday. we talk on the phone atleast twice a day, and txt msg eachother all the time (normally only limited by the fact he is driving all day)
we don't have little kids though (yet), so that would change things too, and is a side I have no experience in.
I personally think maintaining your DS's program is really important...and should be a priority. but thats something you guys need to decide.
I hope I helped...Its a bit early and Spock is taking all my brain cells, but if there is any specific questions or anything let me know =) I'd love to help you out.
I've done it. Its hard. Really hard, but personally, for me having a break from ex was worth it.
I would not move DS while you have whats working for you. Its not worth it to start all over again, especially when DS doesn't just work with anyone. Especially when you never know how long its going to take to restart it all again.
I would also see if DH can do something else til you're ready to move. & have all your referrals & appointments ready when you go.
If that is your DH moving then that is what happens until Master A is old enough.
I'll probably be in this situation next year, with my OH being away out of the country 2 weeks out of 4 for the next 5 years. While we have no kids it won't be that bad, once we do, then it could be interesting. I may contemplating moving closer to family & the nature of my OH's job is that we can live anywhere in the world.
I just had a quick look on Seek and Careerone out of curiosity (clearly I'm super busy at work ) and there are IT positions available up that way. It's hard to say if they are suitable, not knowing what area of IT you DH is getting into, but there is stuff out there. The idea of work from home is a great one. Even if a position is based in another city and your DH would have to go in every now and again for meetings, etc, it would be worth looking at if it means he's home most of the time.
Just curious, what is it about Adelaide that you're not keen on? I'll admit I'm somewhat bias , but moved here from Sydney and don't regret it for a second. Much prefer the lifestyle here plus it is much cheaper than Sydney (or Melbourne).
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) and there are IT positions available up that way. It's hard to say if they are suitable, not knowing what area of IT you DH is getting into, but there is stuff out there. The idea of work from home is a great one. Even if a position is based in another city and your DH would have to go in every now and again for meetings, etc, it would be worth looking at if it means he's home most of the time. 
, but moved here from Sydney and don't regret it for a second. Much prefer the lifestyle here plus it is much cheaper than Sydney (or Melbourne).
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